what you bring out in a partner depends on yourself
“There are no types”….There are, I think, which is why your advertising thing works I believe. Or marketing?
“what you bring out in your partner depends on yourself”.
I agree with this one. But in the reverse : what you bring out in your partner depends on who he or she is.
You are the same person with everybody you encounter. But they are different – each one draws out different things in you.
Some of them turn out to be alchemists that trigger that golden existence – when you are at your happiest, social, intelligent, liberated, coolest, creative best. There are others that tend to draw out all the negative, belligerent qualities in you. Every day spent with them might be a strain – on your resources, on your patience, limits of tolerance, on your ability to think clearly or logically, on your ability to laugh away the contradictions and rough parts of life.
Why do I say that? I will explain.
I am a bundle offer unto the world. I am the sum total of my beliefs, experiences, prejudices, principles, goals and aspirations. Every time I meet you, all of these come into play while we interact with one another. So, I remain the same bundle, basically, with all of you. I do not divide my self and carry this belief to this person and only that principle to that other person. When I meet you I do not know who you are, for the first time anyway, so logically, I come to you as a whole bundle, with all there is.
You pick and choose – to see what you will, and ignore what you would not So, I remain the same – I am the constant element here.
But, people I meet and interact with, are different at each step. Sometimes, they turn out to be people that appreciate me. Sometimes they turn out to be people that hate me. (O am smiling, I don’t hold them responsible, after all, all of us need different things to be happy, right?
It is not because of who I am – it is perhaps because of what you are looking for. Maybe, you loved me, when you found that?
Maybe you hated me, when I did not meet your expectations or I didn’t turn out to be what you were looking for (in me) ? 🙂
I believe, when we do come across people that manage to draw that good side of our selves, we call them “the alchemists” and want to cherish and keep them forever in our lives.
Monkey turned ‘what you sow is what you get’ on its head 😉 ? Is it more like ‘what you sow depends on what you get’ to sow in? (the kind of sowing ground/aadhaar* we get?). There will of course be different views about such things. But this is what came to my mind, when someone I admire made that comment, a day before 😐
* aadhaar: a container, a receptacle, exteneded meaning – a holder, etc.
Cuckoo, Priyank, Kiran, Manoj and even Nita might frown and say “It’s an irresponsible thing to say, Trisha, how could you?”. Jay, Ashraf, Vishal, Harshad, Vagabond, Shantanu, Arun, Rajarshi, Sanjib (Terri never does come I believe),Aloke, Anjan Banerjee, Partha, Sidhu (I know you read me, read is in the past tense ) – and whoever chances upon the page, willing to share their views, it would be fun to know, what you have to say about this.